Do you think Ellen DeGeneres has those big ***y hands to give or to receive, like Mama says she thinks? So, she is in contradiction to what she thinks her mother wants and it has to be yes or no, no "fudging" in the middle.
It would be to receive because people see her as their puppet, their toy. If she wants to be nice to others, others stop her and make her the dominant need instead, aha ha!